Manual of Me

Please do: Provide constructive feedback that includes specific facts and the impact of my actions. Both positive and negative feedback are welcome and helpful. Most importantly, approach me with curiosity and ensure it's a psychologically safe conversation.

How to help: For any action items that come from our talk, please send me a written summary. This acts as a crucial memory aid for me and ensures we're aligned.

My deep focus is unpredictable but most often happens in the early morning after a good night's rest. When I am in a state of focus, I prefer not to be disturbed.

How to help: If something urgent comes up, please send me a message. I will address it as soon as I am able to context-switch without breaking my flow.

Motivates me: I am incredibly motivated by helping, supporting, and seeing my peers grow. I am also fueled by the process of creating things.

Drains me: Office politics, feeling stagnant (a lack of progress), feeling like I'm working alone, or feeling I need to constantly prove my worth.

How to help: Regular check-ins and assistance in overcoming obstacles are hugely beneficial. Often, I already know the answer; a curious question to help me talk it out is more helpful than providing the solution directly.

Success, to me, is having a fulfilling role that allows me to help others become the best versions of themselves.

I am a true ambivert. I need quality alone time to recharge, but I also deeply value time with people to share knowledge, ideas, and laughs.

Large parties and crowded events are overstimulating for me, and I generally avoid them.

For planning, I like a mix: I appreciate things scheduled in advance but also enjoy leaving room for spontaneous adventures to keep life interesting.

I often check in by sharing memes or things related to our shared interests. I believe laughter is a powerful tool for bonding and lifting spirits.

While digital communication is great, I truly value in-person connection or spending time together online in a game.

You can expect me to show up for you as a supportive presence.

I prefer to resolve conflict relatively quickly, as I tend to overthink and situations can feel worse in my head over time.

My need in the moment can vary: sometimes I need a little space to process my thoughts, and other times I can resolve things immediately. I will do my best to communicate what I need in the moment.

My Love Languages are:

The Most Important Thing: I thrive with a partner who is supportive and encouraging, who lets me be my quirky self. If I make a mistake, I respond best when it is approached with love and kindness.

I aim to be direct in difficult conversations, but I am consciously working on moving from an anxious/avoidant style toward a more secure one.

How you can help: I am committed to self-improvement. I am learning to create breathing space, identify my triggers, and communicate them. Patience and open communication as I practice this are invaluable.

My non-negotiables are: honesty (with yourself and me), a willingness to learn and be curious, openness to feedback, kindness, and open-mindedness.

I believe a strong relationship involves both people working on themselves for each other's benefit. Life is tough enough—sharing the weight makes all the difference.

The best dates are ones where my partner is genuinely happy, or where I can be fully in the moment without overthinking or doubting what the "perfect" thing to do is.